From behaviors to billboards, suggestions of sex and sexuality filter into our lives. But communication is part of having good sex. The willingness to talk about the kind of sex we have or want to have is a key skill. Read on to learn what McCombs and other experts recommend when approaching this intimate topic.
Your Complete Guide to Talking About Sex With a New Partner
Talking to Your Partner About Sex
It might be awkward at first, but opening up about your needs and desires can transform your relationship. S ex is a life-affirming act, one of the most intimate things you can do with another person. But talking about it? So much harder. For example, someone with low desire may have been harbouring 20 years of resentment about something else. Is talking about sex ever a bad idea? So where do you start?
'Start low, and go slow': how to talk to your partner about sex
Talking about sex with your partner can be really tricky. In many ways, sex should be just another part of your relationship — something you share together, and a means by which you connect — but for various reasons, it can often feel like a risky thing to try and discuss openly. Many people just find the topic awkward in general — they may not have grown up in an environment where sex was discussed frankly.
It is perfectly okay to keep some things private, especially fantasies that you enjoy on your own and do not care to share with someone else. But in any relationship, whether for one night or many years, there are things about which you do need to communicate. Talking about sex openly makes for relationships that are more fun and satisfying. People sometimes think that if their partner really loved them or cared about them the other person would do exactly what they wanted. But none of us is a mind reader!